Understand it this way: when your first child becomes a toddler and suddenly stops eating what do you do? YOU FREAK OUT!!! You panic and think he is going to starve. By the third day of not eating you are in tears because you are sure that his brain isn't going to develop properly and probably his muscles are starting to atrophy right before your eyes due to malnutrition. But after a few (tearful) calls to the pediatrician and a few more to your friends who have kids just a few months older than yours and you are totally reassured that this crazy toddler behavior is totally NORMAL and happens to them all and you relax. So when the next child stops eating you just shrug and go, "Oh well!" because you know it's normal and that he will eat when he is hungry.
Well, that's what honest blogs do to help me. They help me to know what the broad range of normal is and what to possibly expect at each turn in the road. All through this adoption experience I have loved reading honest blogs by people who have gone before me in the process so that I can see what possibly to expect all along the way. I would love to do that for someone else. So I'm gonna be honest about what has been going on the past couple of weeks.
My husband and I have been fighting like a couple of Jr. High kids.
So there you have it. When you have your referral and have passed court and are preparing your home to welcome your new addition and you both start to let the stress get to you and you have a great big blow out fight, just think to yourself, "Gayla said this might happen." and then just take a deep breath, drink a glass of wine, and relax. We lived through it. You will too.
And although I will spare you the details, just know that no matter how bad your fight with your spouse gets, as long as you don't find yourself yelling, "NO, as a matter of fact you DON'T get to have an opinion!" you'll know that you are doing better than me.
And I lived to tell. So you will too. :-)