tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post5747448449338887777..comments2023-04-22T17:15:15.867-05:00Comments on 3 Continents... 1 Family: Grieving (so far...)Gaylahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12958267663405508736noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post-8851646993384790152011-03-19T21:05:20.501-05:002011-03-19T21:05:20.501-05:00Gayla thanks for being so transparent. It's s...Gayla thanks for being so transparent. It's sharing the realness that normalizes it for many of us and gives uo hopes of whatto expect. Thanks. I will look into the book you mentioned it looks like i better start getting ready. Thanks, JenniferJennRene Owenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11449139521124593679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post-7100859233744310242010-11-24T18:27:01.040-06:002010-11-24T18:27:01.040-06:00I cried like a baby reading this post!!! I LOVE yo...I cried like a baby reading this post!!! I LOVE your daughter! Such strength at such a young age! That killed my heart how you pulled the car over to comfort her! You are a great mommy!! I adopted a baby boy at 5 months from Ethiopia. He was abandoned and I have a heavy heart when I think how I will EVER tell him!! I'm sure his mom LOVED him dearly, but these kids go through so much!! We really can only love them unconditionally....<br /><br />Blessings,<br />MonicaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post-9944359746209694442010-11-24T00:29:51.112-06:002010-11-24T00:29:51.112-06:00You really touched me with this post. We do know ...You really touched me with this post. We do know our boys have been LOVED...AND LOVED WELL. They were clearly adored. It has been so hard for me to understand why I get to be their mom when their mother didn't get to finish. It is so unfair. It really is a struggle to understand it all and not keep asking "why?".Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15820979426512662936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post-65679313834121577882010-11-23T22:36:20.686-06:002010-11-23T22:36:20.686-06:00We are going through this too and yes, it is sooo ...We are going through this too and yes, it is sooo hard to watch. I know that our girls will get through this and so will we. I also know that because you and I DON'T negate their first family will be a huge reason for this. I don't understand why or how any adoptive parent could. I heard somewhere that if a mother can love two children, then a child can love two mothers...and I agree 100%. We just finished Shelato's life book this week and she is so excited for this. I really think this is going to help her heal...I really do. Hugs to you!Jocelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13797937373980987124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post-22939911752986805222010-11-23T15:00:46.129-06:002010-11-23T15:00:46.129-06:00Oh, your post SO resonated with me. We brought ou...Oh, your post SO resonated with me. We brought our 4 year old daughter home from Ethiopia in January, and the grieving process for her has been so much more complicated than I thought. I compare it to sneaker waves at the beach...you're just having a good time and then - boom! Suddenly this freezing cold waves knocks you down. The other day we were happily cooking and she said, "Mom, I changed my mind. I want to go back. My Ethiopian mom misses me." Oh, I did not know how to process that with her because I did not know how to process it myself. I'm glad that I found your blog! I will enjoy following your journey!Bonnie Nieuwstratenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187032879567501612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post-8810973942064395642010-11-23T13:49:01.604-06:002010-11-23T13:49:01.604-06:00This post was so very moving and real. I can't...This post was so very moving and real. I can't enter in to what you share but very many people are praying for Ave and I know that "every time we pray, something happens". You are so obviously the best family who could possibly care for her for her biological parents.Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026956107532428860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post-41781276244785286042010-11-23T12:41:24.441-06:002010-11-23T12:41:24.441-06:00This is a beautiful post. It sounds to me like you...This is a beautiful post. It sounds to me like you are doing a wonderful job responding to her. I'm totally impressed._https://www.blogger.com/profile/16045401564948651914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post-32888214336878953192010-11-23T11:55:37.261-06:002010-11-23T11:55:37.261-06:00It is not fair. Rejection does hurt. It's OK...It is not fair. Rejection does hurt. It's OK to cry about that because it's a normal, human reaction. Frankly, there are days when I wonder if we shouldn't be starting a trust fund for my kids' therapy when they grow up because this parenting gig is hard and I screw up a lot. <br /><br />What you are doing is right - be open to her feelings, acknowledge her feelings, and share your abundant love with her. Doesn't it just s*ck that children so young and innocent have to deal with such hard, hard, things? <br /><br />Big hugs!Kimberliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00682309129537807752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post-23519596216099469142010-11-23T11:29:11.767-06:002010-11-23T11:29:11.767-06:00I will tell you you are giving her so very much. A...I will tell you you are giving her so very much. As one who knows nothing, and has always been fully loved by her family, you are giving her so very much. My first memories in life are the story about "How We Got Sohailah" - the accounting that my mom had written in my baby book - that is truly my earliest memory - sitting in her lap on the little love seat in our living room and having her read it to me. Poor woman - God only knows how many times I asked her to read it to me. Must have been a lot, because when I read it as an adult, I realized I had much of it memorized.<br /><br />The heart/head connection is so difficult for all of us. <br /><br />I am so proud of you - your patience, your love, your honesty.<br /><br />And although it's 'not fair' - had I not been adopted, had I HAD the chance to live with my natural parents - where would I be now? It MAY have been fine, but more than likely not. I try to remember the tapestry that God is weaving - the knots on the underside weaving such a beautiful only God-able front side picture.Sohailahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07705675992572434472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5531610805993268481.post-4482575992102622022010-11-23T10:52:32.476-06:002010-11-23T10:52:32.476-06:00Thank you! for sharing. We are a couple months awa...Thank you! for sharing. We are a couple months away (I hope) from bringing home our 3 yr. old from ET. I have been thinking about this a lot lately. It sounds like you are handling it beautifully. I LOVE Karyn Purvis. :)<br />www.familyboulton.blogspot.comLyndsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07588733555673976126noreply@blogger.com